Marriage is a beautiful thing, but you have to work it out.
Marriage is a union of spirit, soul and body between man and woman. There is no marriage made in heaven except the people involved are understanding, forgiving, loving and willing to work it out and make it a marriage made in heaven.
Do not expect your spouse to be 100% perfect because you’re not. Give allowance for mistakes and create room for forgiveness. Marriage is like a bank account, whatever you deposit is what you will withdraw. If you deposit into your marriage – kindness, love, mutual respect, forgiveness, gracious words, appreciation, sincerity of purpose, happiness and Godly virtues, you will reap what you have sown. According to Pastor (Mrs.) Aremu, “What you don’t appreciate will depreciate in value. Appreciate the uniqueness of your spouse. Even if you think you made a mistake marrying your spouse, appreciate your ‘mistake’ and God will turn him/her into a miracle.”
As a matter of fact, you spend more time with your spouse than any other person on earth. Marriage is a lifetime commitment. Make the time glorious, beautiful, useful and fun-filled. Do not allow bitterness, anger and revenge destroy your togetherness.
Sometimes in marriage, there could be misunderstanding. At such times, remember that ‘soft answer turns away anger.’ Even if you think you are right and your spouse is wrong, be quick to hear but slow to answer. ‘There are times when silence is golden.’ This gives honour and dignity, than letting the argument degenerate into a fight. Clear off past offences and move on.
Be intimate and celebrate love not lust in your marriage. Effective communication plays an important role in any relationship. Revel and put the interest of your spouse above yours. Be a friend to one another and share common experience. Attack and solve problems together as a couple and not as individuals. Your dressing and appearance matters. Always look good for yourself and your spouse. It adds to your value and self-worth. Understanding of your spouse will give you a settled relationship. Understand and apply what your spouse likes.
A successful marriage requires falling in love with your spouse over and over again, and be determined that no matter what it takes, your marriage must work. If you succeed in your marriage, it means you can succeed at anything!
If you want to truly enjoy your marriage, you must first of all, love and be at peace with yourself. What you don’t have, you can’t give!
Lesson: Marriage is a beautiful thing. Put your best into it and make it work.
